My name is Sarah Stoner. I am a wife, working mother of 3, sister, friend and daughter. My life and that of all my family was turned upside down when, in April 2015 my mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia.
She was 64.
I started this blog in February 2016, mainly to record my feelings and to log all the strange things that were happening. I have a habit, you see, of blocking out memories that are painful, (perhaps we all do) and I realised, as I recorded my dark thoughts yet again, on the notes section on my iPhone, that I don’t want to forget anything. I want to remember how bloody difficult it is, how stressful and heartbreaking each step of this journey is, so that one day, I can look back and be proud of how we coped as a family. Proud of how we pulled together, despite all the odds and came through it together.
We will come through it.
But, at the moment, we are still in it.
I also wanted to record my memories of my mother as she was, before dementia stole her from us. I’m not sure how she would feel about me sharing, so openly, some of our family stories, her brilliance, her failings, her utterly magnificent humanity.
I hope she would be proud of me.
My friends – who knew my mother well – tell me she would be proud of me.
Maybe that is why I write too.
To make her proud.
Dementia Stole Her From Us
So, welcome to my blog. I hope it helps those of you who are also struggling with dementia in your family.
I hope it makes you smile and makes you remember in your darkest moments that you are not alone and there are others who are with you every step of the way; willing you on, cheering and applauding you wildly for your determination, your bravery, your courage and your strength to carry on, despite your shattered heart.